Hey My name is Tiara Cooper and I want to welcome you to my website.

From 2012-2018 I had spent over 6 years in an on and off again situationship with a man who was toxic for my growth and development as a young woman . He did not have a job, car, and battled with alcohol addiction but I would drop everything I was doing if he had ever called. He was perfect to me. I made myself 100% available for him and he would take all of me and use me more than I ever even noticed. I spent my late teens and early 20’s attempting to fix a man that would have more and more problems as each day went on.

During 2013-2015 he was arrested in Florida on multiple charges from Grand theft to Possession of Marijuana and failure to appear in court warrant. During that time I got to enjoy my college days and have fun. Once I graduated and he was back with his family in Georgia, we started back hanging out like we never ended. Unfortunately, he changed drastically from the quirky high school football star I first met to a alcoholic felon with no ambition. He would purposely get drunk throughout the day and even though he was never an “aggressive drunk”, I would have to drag his 200 pound dead weight body to a safe place for him to pass out at on multiple occasions. From places such as driveways, lawns, and family and friends living room floors. He would also rant on and on about random things such as killings, drugs, and Hebrew religion in front of elder family members of his and mine as well as young children. The terror, frustration, and confusion would sweep over everyone’s faces. I remember feeling so ashamed but I loved that man.

In my eyes, he could do no wrong. I would craft resumes’ for him and even apply to jobs on his behalf. The positions he did get
hired for such as package handler for UPS, he would go in on some
occasions. Other times, he would get drunk and skip out on work. The crazy part was that he never gave me the official “girlfriend” title until the last two months of our situationship. Boy, was I battling with low self esteem. I couldn’t see the predicament I had placed myself in for so many years. In December of 2017, he decided to make me his girlfriend and yes, I was so excited. After all this time, I finally was his girl. However, after just a few weeks I was no longer thrilled about being his girlfriend. Everything that I had been through came rushing to my brain as if I have a moment of clarity. I no longer wanted him to be a part of my life. After 6 years, I was done.

On my 24th birthday, January 21, 2018 I decided to end my situationship with him. I ended up slipping up and going to see him on Feb 4, 2018. However after kicking myself for back tracking, I said to myself that I can no longer do this! I had to give myself the will power to move on.

It has been over a year now and I am no longer in love with him, I have a great position, working for Fulton County Superior Court and now I have this blog to share with you all what I have learned from that situation and a few more I have been in since that day. I have dated several men since then and I have learn the art of setting standards and not staying in toxic relationship with people who drain your life force. I will no longer give another person all of me until the efforts are matched. I will no longer waste years or even months on the wrong person. I now love me more than I can even imagine.

This blog will be your guide to leaving toxic relationships, letting go of your hurt and embracing your singleness to make you a better person for not just your future husband or wife but for yourself as well. All toxic relationships are not the same. The very from verbal or mental abuse to physical and emotional abuse. However, no matter what your situation is there is always someone else who went through it and came out victorious on the other side. I want you all to know that you do not have to go through difficult lessons in your life alone. Trouble will only last as long as you allow it. It is easier to see things through when you rally together with other people.

Please browse around my page and post comments throughout the website and look out for events such as workshops and discussion panels hosted in Atlanta, Ga (for now). Let this site be here for you through your situations. If you want me to post a blog about a current situation you are going through, feel free to contact me and I will craft a blog JUST FOR YOU.

Again, Welcome and remember to RAISE YOUR CROWN.